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How to Handle a Family
March 15th, 2010Overall is the daily living with others in a family, the job, friends, grant parents, babies and pets a very pleasureful happening, and it is for sure worth all the good things of every single individual, to make it better and playful for all the ones, who are living there. Everybody makes a wonderful carrier, has awesome friends, give parties here and there, and the kids make it through the grades and also do not take any dangerous drugs or try to often miss school. It is a pure enjoyment, being involved and live through it, together every day of the year.
This is the absolute best condition, and for sure the dream of everybody, who loves to live in a happy and stable environment.
But there are things happening and unpredicted at any time, where some stress will occur and problems appear, and so people loose their strings. It must not be big. But to whatever happens, a proper way of handling it needs always to be worked out fast. This will occur here and there with everybody in this family. Somebody did not make it through the grades, somebody else threw a football in the big window of a supermarket, the lady of the house is thinking, that her husband has a girlfriend, and the unpaid bills from the son, having no job, are all stacking up over the heads. The longer it takes to handle it, and get it properly fixed, the more worse the situation will grow.
Several of these little or bigger disasters can get handled easily and with a smile, because a real danger did not occur. But there are always situations, which keep on not getting handled and then drag on for a long time. It happens, that nobody likes to talk about it anymore. “It is just how it is”, becomes the apathetic frame of mind. But these are the special secrets, which build up lies, heart attacks and are causing sleeplessness. And every other new occuring situation, small or large, will make it even worse.
It is easy to say, “That’s how it has always been in an American middle class family”. But it isn’t, and the mood of every individual involved drops down more and more and all good feeling from the past are disappeared. Now life becomes a more tough routine of actions. Wake up on time, go shopping, feet the cat, pay your bills, wash the laundry, do your homework, but be also a nice girl, whenever needed.
How can this now get resolved back into a higher state of beingness, where happiness and being playful, can give back the real big pleasure?
It has to get changed right there !
Such a family has to work it out together, and look at all the outpoints of each single individual. Nobody in this moment, should take pills or drink alcohol. And a list of actions has to be written for all the assigned duties, for which individual handles what situation. And if help is needed, it has to be worked out too. This will always become a bit like a serious activity, but will not turn out too bad, because nobody may prevent trying to find and DO the proper handlings for the already known outpoints. Just honesty and participation is needed. All the outpoints are understood, and whatever else is missing, it still can be said.
After such a meeting things may happen, where family members start a bit upsetting each other, because the confront level came up and nobody wants to be the one, getting called the bad guy. But sane people will normally do fine, having the attention on getting it all under control and handled, and can tell about their success to all others. And it should be done a meeting every week, to talk about the progress of things or asking for help. Finally working as a team, everything will turn out fine.
This is the moment, the family re-unions completely back as a team, sticking together as never before and liking each other so much, as it would be a new life and family, one can be really proud of.
But there is still something else, what the family can do, and this is going on a nice vacation to somewhere beautiful in this world. It could be one of the outstanding Beaches in Florida, and in a nice Hotel with good food, enjoying it all together and collecting some new impressions, which can be take home for a long time to remember.
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How to Deal With a Child That Lies
January 16th, 2010At some point, every child lies. Lying has become a learned and ingrained part of humanity. Adults lie all the time and many do it in front of their kids. They may rationalize the lying as political correctness, yet the essence is still the same. When your child starts telling tall tales your reaction to it will play a large part in how quickly they modify the behavior into one leaned more toward honesty than deceit.
Alfred Adler wrote, “a lie would have no sense unless the truth was felt to be dangerous.” When it comes to children, parents need to start thinking about this quote and how it applies to their child, family and relationships. Why is your child afraid to tell the truth, what sort of stimuli have they received from you in regard to the lie that makes the truth so frightening and most important have you ever given your child a reason to lie. Children perceive the actions and reactions of their parents much differently than parents do. While a parent may think they are imposing disciplining, demanding respect and manners, setting limits and boundaries children can often feel stifled by the rules with no real understanding of why they are important or why they are in place. Certainly, it isn’t a parent’s fault perse that a child lies but more than likely, something from their past experiences has led to the lie you are dealing with today.
The first step in dealing with lying is to allow your child time to talk themselves out of it. It is vital for children to develop feelings of accountability and learning what it feels like to do something wrong is one of the only ways this develops. Let them have their lie, assuming it isn’t hurting anyone and do your best to go along with it for the moment. As minutes, hours or days pass; begin questioning your child about the lie. If they swore they ate all their peas and you find them stashed under the couch, present the plate of green peas with some concern about how in the world they got there. Ask your child without accusing and try to give them the opportunity to come up with the truth. When they do, which they will at some point, applaud their honesty and try to make them realize that the truth is not all that bad and that certainly mom and dad aren’t as ogre’ish’ as they might have thought.
Just as parents need and want to trust their children, children need and want to trust their parents. Even with the truth when it’s ugly. Kids can learn that their wrongdoings will be made worse by lying about them and should be led to understand that lying is morally wrong and has far-reaching implications. Screaming, yelling and punishing initially may only cause your child to be more prone to lying because they are fearful of the consequences. Effective discipline actually helps curb a behavior issue, rather than simply swipe it under the rug and steal power from children.
The American Academy of Childhood Psychology notes that children are under a lot of pressure and that meeting the demands of family, teachers, schoolmates and others can be difficult for children. Young children under the age of six still have a difficult time deciphering the differences between fantasy and reality and much of their lying may actually be played out in the truths of the stories they tell. When they do this and you catch on, try to help your child’s fantasy character do the right thing and show them that lying is not the only answer. In older children, under the age of 12 – lying is impulsive and usually a means to avoid discipline. These children should have a firm grasp on reality by this point and the lying should be decoded and dealt with immediately. Even so, children should be allowed to come to the truth on their own terms and be able to accept punishment for what they did wrong. One mistake many parents make is as soon as the child tells the truth, they drop the punishment. Following through on punishment is vital, especially in early adolescence and allows children to witness the fact that their actions have consequences.
Psychologists warn that children who lie extensively even in situations that do not offer an element of ‘fear’ may do so for attention. Often the stories that they tell get them more attention from adults and teachers than the ordinary truth would be. These traits can develop in pathological lying traits and should be dealt with by professionals.
When you have children, you know at some point that the little white lies of youth will begin to rear their ugly head. As children transition from a world where make believe and imagination are encouraged into one that is suddenly structured and seemingly unimaginative, lying may peak. Be patient with this behavior and understand that the lies may not be purposeful or intended even. Simply point out the differences between the truth and lies and ensure that your children feel safe and comfortable talking to you even when things go wrong. The younger you instill this feeling the better off you will be. Most importantly, set an example and try to be honest with your children and in your own life. Even if you are telling a vagrant you don’t have any change because you want to avoid the situation, remember that your children are watching you do that and they may not understand why it was okay for you to lie. In these instances, silence can be your best friend. Keep in mind, when it comes to children what they are not telling you – may be the biggest lie of all!
David Beart runs the Professors House. Our family based site covers everything from raising children to divorce advice, health and nutrition to pets and real estate.
Diagram and Back Pain
June 14th, 2008You would wonder how Diagram and Back Pain are related. Sickness absence is universally caused and the most commonly caused by back pain. Back pain is not a serious illness but its very painful. Affecting more than 70% of human beings, ‘Lumbago’ (lower back pain) affects us at least once in a lifetime. Low back pain is a stiff pain starting from the back right from the bottom of the ribs up to the top of the legs. Lower back pain is a probable symptom of damage to muscles or ligaments.
Back pain also has special patters. It can be a sudden pain or it can be gradual, it may crop up sometimes or may persist, it’s also known to show up at a particular time of the day. In order for your doctor to help make a proper diagnosis, the doctor should be aware of the particular type of pain and patterns so in order for the doctor to monitor your progress. The type of pain that you feel in your neck or back is a good indicator of the type of pain that is occurring in the spine.
Stabbing, burning or electrical type sensations down the one arm or leg could be caused by either an irritated nerve or also muscular sprain or also a ligament sprain, pain due to a stiff nerve could be caused by a postural problem or injury. The location of the pain may or may not have any importance to where the injury or damage is. In the case of an affected nerve pain travels down the arm or leg as it does in sciatica.
It’s a possibility that the pain is in more that one part of the body. In this case a diagram of the body or body diagram is very useful to map and track down the location of where the pain is as it changes or moves. The diagram can also be used to relay you’re symptoms and location of the pain accurately to your doctor.
Most common incidences of seeking medical treatment arise due to back pain and neck pain. For some patients back pain might remain as one time inconvenience during their life time whereas some patients suffer episodic back pain throughout their life time.
Lumbar facet joints are bilateral because they have two joints per level. Joints decay due to ageing and may also cause back pain. Decaying joints also cause the joints to rub against each others surface and that could cause inflammation. This could further lead to joint decay and back pain. Muscular imbalances could also be a probable cause of a number of muscle, metabolic and postural dysfunctions and syndromes. Studies have shown that a high percentage of the population with pack pain suffer due to light muscles or muscular imbalances. If this condition is left untreated, it leads to degenerative spinal conditions. Excessive forces applied on the spinal joints, ligaments and discs due to over activity or under activity of the muscles causes’ degenerative spine.
The latest advances in medical science has managed to increase longevity and expanded the quality of life. Hence a specialist in spine care should be consulted. They are many specialists Orthopedic spine surgeons who have taken added advanced training in order to treat spinal disorders, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis, herniated disc, bulging disc, ruptured discs, vertebral fracture, deformity, tumor, infection and congenital abnormalities. This type of treatment is given out in special clinics, facilities and institutes that perform advanced tests and minimal invasive surgeries to correct such conditions. For a great number of cases the treatments given are simple and outpatient procedures that minimize stress and minimize bleeding of the patient drastically and also shorten the time a patient gets well.
Diagram and Back Pain – Diagram or body diagram or diagram of nervous system and spine is a very useful diagnostic tool to determine causes of back pain, location of back pain and patterns of back pain. Doctors utilize the diagram and various other visual assessment methods and questionnaire to make a proper diagnosis of back pain.